carnegie's 9 people rules, straight from the book

How to Win Friends and Influence People, parts one and two. I keep re-reading these instead of the cliff notes version everyone shares.

Don't criticize, condemn, or complain

principle one of part one, in the book's own wording, not a linkedin repost

Give honest and sincere appreciation

Arouse in the other person an eager want

sounds manipulative until you realize it means explain why it helps them, not you

Become genuinely interested in other people

Smile

he means an actual smile, not the retail one

Remember that a person's name is the sweetest sound in any language to them

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves

Talk in terms of the other person's interests

easier said than done at a dinner party

Make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely

sincerely is doing a lot of work in that sentence

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